Thursday, March 25, 2010

Happiness

Make yourself happy, pursue your passions and  be the best in what you do.
Take care of yourself. …don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life. You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU.
  There will be mistakes along the way………..but they will also be lessons  and you will never make the right choices without making a few the wrongs
                                ones first
       So remember to love, laugh and live completely with no regret
      because true friends will always be there no matter what………………
          and in the end You alone determine your own happiness,
             And God will be with you each step of the way..

I  will  never  understand  the  need  of  some  people  to be  negative ....................... what  does  it  help.........................  They  don't  see  the  silver  lining,  they  see  the rain  clouds,  they  don't  see the  cup  half  full,  they  see the  cup  half  empty.................. they  don't  see  the  house  full of  laughing children  they  see the  mess................. they  don't  see the  joy  of  life  giving  rain,  they  see  the  mud............ why  is  this??
What  gene  do  these  people  have  that  makes  it  impossible  for  them  to  see  the  good,  in  life,  in  situations,  in  people,  to  see beyond,  their  looks  or  their  circumstances  and  see the  person  they  have  become,  to  see the   learning  in  a  situation,  to  see  the beauty  that  is  in  everything................
I  have  realised  over  the "many"  years  that  if you  cannot  laugh  at  yourself,  if  you  cannot  find the  'funny'  in  all  situations..........  then   life  is  tough.............  the  sad  part  is  that  this  is  a  choice  that  you  make..........  this  is  a  decision  that  is  in  your  hands...............  this  is  a  decision  between  laughter  and  sadness............................ 
I  have distanced myself  from  many  people  over  the  years, although  still  friends,  I  do  not  seek  them  out  and  spend  as  little  time  as  possible  with  them,  because  the  are  just  too  draining,  to  melodramatic,  to  drama  queen,/king  not  happy  unless there  is  a  disaster  in  there  lives,  not  happy unless there  lives  are  a mess........
I  have  had  someone  tell me that  they  were  robbed,  all their  clothes  were gone.......  so  we  rallied  around  and  got  some  new  clothes,  people  emptied  their closets,  and  took  it  out  to  them ................  the  washing  on  the  line  had  been  stolen..................  bong...........  friend  gone.................... drama  queen
I  have  had  someone  who was  pleading  poverty,  separated  for  two  years,  not  working,    three  young  children to  support  living  off  maintenance  and  her  mother .............  who  when  a  job  came  along was  not  ready  for  it  the  children  needed  her ................bong ......    gone ..........  lazy woman.
I  have  had  a  friend  who hated  her  job,  moaned  about  her  boss, complained  about  the  travelling,  her  salary, her  co-workers .............  was  offered  a  new  job  and  refused,  was  5  km  further  from  home...............  bong........  gone..............  ridiculous  woman.
I  have  a  friend,  who  is  divorced  and  months  after  the  divorce,  caused  mainly  by  herself,  still cry's  when  you  talk  about  her  husband..............  bong .......  gone  living  in  the  past. 
We  need  to  be  there  for  each  other  in  times  of  need,  we  need  to  uplift  and  support  one  another,  we  need  to  pray  for  one  another,  but we  also  need  to  want  to change  our  circumstances..............  a  friend  of  mine  my "bestest"  friend  once  told  me  when  I  was  unhappy  at  work.........  "Get  used  to  it  or  find  another  job" ..............  I  will be  there  22 years  in  April...............  I  got  used  to it,  learnt  to  work  around  it,  learnt  to  use  it  to  my  advantage...............
We  have  to  surround  ourselves  with  positive  people,  people  who  can  lift  us  up  when  we   are  down,  people  who  can  be  honest  with  us and  tell  us  when  we  are  being  the  drama  queen,  the  lazy  woman,  the  ridiculous  woman, the  live  in  the  past  woman..............  because..........................  Life  is  what  YOU make  IT ,  your  attitude,  your  choices,  your  happiness,  your  joy,  your  direction,  your  life....................
 

4 comments:

  1. Negative people will suck you dry if you let them...My Dad was such a positive person. When I was 10 his company went on strike, he had a heart attack, and then in Nov. of that year our house burned down. We lost everything...except our lives. He said the house was just a building unless we were all there and we would rebuild (which we did) and then he smiled and said "Thank goodness nothing really bad has happened this year!"

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  2. Thank you for writing this post! I totally agree with you. I have lost some friends due to the same reasons and sometimes feel guilty about it, but I find the negativity and drama just wears me out. I feel so lucky to have such a wonderful life, that I feel sad to hear that people are not happy with the lives that they are living. It absolutely does come down to choices we make for ourselves and how we choose to view our circumstances that affects our happiness. I choose to be happy. Thank you.

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  3. I've been trying to capture happiness in my life for a while now. It's not as easy as it sounds sometimes, but I'm working on it. Life is over before you know it, why waste the time dwelling on the negative?

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  4. How very true! I heard a saying once that nobody ever died of hard work! I get frustrated with people who want the easy life but don't want to work for it!

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